If your partner has threatened to divorce you, then you should not assume that everything is normal in your marriage. Here are a few tips on how to deal with such a threat:
Find Out Reasons for the Threat
The first thing is to try and figure out why your partner is making the threats. You can do this by talking to them and analyzing your life together, taking into account the circumstances under which the threats were issued. Hopefully, this will help you know whether your partner is serious about getting divorced or whether they have other reasons for making the threats. Hopefully, you will still be able to preserve your marriage (assuming that is what you want) after that.
Find Solutions for the Issues
Once you have identified why your partner made the divorce threat, you can try working on the issues together to find a solution for them. This is particularly sound advice if you are convinced your partner didn't mean it when they threatened you with a divorce. Also, it only makes sense if you and your partner are willing to sit down and solve the issue without further threats. You may even involve a marriage counselor to help you work through your issues.
Prepare For a Divorce
If you conclude that your partner is serious about the threats, then you should start preparing for a divorce as soon as possible. The same advice applies if you have talked with your partner and realized that the issues at hand cannot be resolved and your marriage has broken down irrevocably. Here are a few tips on how to prepare for a divorce:
Talk To a Divorce Attorney
It's also a good idea to talk to a divorce lawyer as soon as possible if you have realized that your partner is serious about the divorce. For one, the earlier you file for the divorce, the better. It may also give you the opportunity to be the first to file for the divorce ahead of your partner, which may give you some edge during the deliberations. Lastly, you also get the chance to prevent your partner from consulting the best attorneys in the area ahead of you (this is called conflicting out lawyers), which would mean you can't use the attorneys.Share
7 September 2018
My name is Laura, and I am an attorney specializing in helping clients leave violent marriages. The law can help victims be safe, but many potential clients cannot afford legal services and may be afraid to pursue divorce. They may not be aware of services that have been created to keep them hidden from violent ex-partners and to help them be awarded assets in a divorce so they can provide for themselves and their families. I hope to raise awareness of these issues as well as help direct people in danger to facilities where they can receive guidance and financial assistance.